Dear Queenie,
Since I got divorced I believe my ex is not part of my family any more and now I am remarried it makes me and my new spouse uncomfortable when my family invites my ex to family events, but my family keeps doing it.
Queenie, can I ask them not to include my ex?—Divorced and remarried
Dear Divorced and remarried,
You can ask them, but you cannot force them to do as you ask. Part of the problem may be that their young children may still be fond of your ex as their aunt (or uncle as the case may be).
You and your present spouse should concentrate on trying not to let your ex’s presence bother you.
