Dear Queenie,
My husband and my son both treat me well when they are not both there, but when they are together they get very offensive. When I try to talk to my husband about this he just gets mad and says it’s my fault.
Queenie, why do they act this way?—Offended mother
Dear Mother,
This may be a form of “male bonding”, but not in a good way. Your husband may have issues he does not know how to talk about, and your son may just be following his father’s lead, but he should not be allowed to treat you disrespectfully.
Professional counselling as a family might help. If not, or if you cannot get the other two to go with you, you may need individual counselling to help you learn how to cope with the situation and decide whether you want to continue to put up with it.
