Dear Queenie,
I have finished college and have a good job and I’m ready to think about getting married and starting a family. But all the men my own age only seem to want to party and watch or do sports and hang out with “the guys” except when they want sex.
Queenie, where can I find a serious man who wants a wife and children and is able and willing to support us instead of expecting me to support him?—Searching
Dear Searching,
Your complaint is very familiar, and I expect my answer will also be familiar to my readers.
Part of your problem may be that you are looking in the wrong places. You probably will not find Mr. Serious Family Man in a bar, at a party, or at a sports event. Try joining a community service organisation or church, or volunteering at the hospital, the home for the elderly, one of the children’s homes, an after-school activities group, the shelter for abused women and children or other worthy organisation.
You might also inform your married relatives and friends what kind of man you are looking for. There is nothing married women like better, it seems, than “fixing up” their unmarried sisters.
And before a lot of men start writing to me asking me to put them in touch with Searching, I repeat once again: My column is not a dating service and I never give out names, addresses or other personal information of the people who write to me; not in the newspaper, not by mail or e-mail or word of mouth or any other way. Never!
If you want to make contact with someone else who has written to me, you can run an ad in the newspaper. If they are interested, they can then make contact with you.
