Dear Queenie,
My wife doesn’t have any social life except me and her family. I wouldn’t mind, except she thinks I should do the same thing.
She hates to see me go out and have a good time with my friends and she says if I really loved her I wouldn’t want to spend time with anyone else.
Queenie, how can I get her to lighten up?—Smothered
Dear Smothered,
There could be several reasons for your wife’s attitude, but whatever the reason, it doesn’t seem healthy. She would probably benefit from counselling, but persuading her that she has a problem and getting her to seek help will probably be difficult.
Meanwhile, however, you could use some help learning to cope with her behaviour, and if you go for counselling she might be willing to go with you, especially if you – and/or the counsellor – ask her to do so to help you with your problem. And let’s face it, you do have a problem. Just don’t tell her she is the problem!
