Dear Queenie,
Recently I heard from an old boyfriend I hadn’t seen in years. Since then we have been talking every day and he has started telling me he loves me
The problem is, he has a woman he is living with. He says they are just friends and roommates and don’t have sex or anything like that, but he isn’t ready to just kick her out or move out himself. However, I want some kind of commitment before I get into a serious relationship with him.
Queenie, what should I do?—Undecided
Dear Undecided,
You are not this man’s girlfriend, the woman he lives with is, whether he admits it or not. Tell him you are not interested in any relationship with him as long as he is with her. And bear in mind that he is cheating on her emotionally, if not physically – and he might end up treating you the same way.
