Dear Queenie,
My son’s fiancée never says “thank you” when you do something for her or give her something, and when she visits us she just sits there and doesn’t say anything or offer to help out in any way.
I’ve talked to my son about all this but it doesn’t seem to bother him.
It’s bad enough when it’s just us, but it will be a real problem when there are big family get-togethers.
Queenie, should I talk to her about it?—Worried mother
Dear Mother,
No, do not talk to your son’s fiancée. She may be very shy, in which case you may be able, with a lot of time and patience, to teach her to do better.
However, if that is not the case, she is not likely to change unless your son insists on it, and maybe not even then.
And whatever happens, try to put up with her patiently, for your son’s sake.
