Dear Queenie,
My wife thinks everything in our marriage should be exactly equal, meaning we should spend the same amount of time visiting with both sets of parents, take turns changing the baby’s diaper and doing the dishes, etc.
Queenie, I don’t mind doing extra work when she is tired or sick, but why can’t she do the same for me?—Unequal husband
Dear Husband,
Does she have an outside-the-home job? And if so, does she think you should bring home equal paycheques? Or have you managed to convince her that any inequality is levelled out by the amount of housework she does?
Your wife is not going to change her ideas until she realises what a problem she has, and that probably will take professional counselling. I hope you can persuade her to go. If not, start out by going yourself, and then suggest “equal time” for her.
