Dear Queenie,
I have tried to get along with my daughter-in-law but nothing I have tried to do works. She won’t let me have her children, my grandchildren, come to visit me or take them places or even take them to school and pick them up there to bring them home.
I get along alright with the rest of her family but not with her. They have tried to talk to her about this, and so has my son, her husband, but she won’t listen to them.
My son manages to include me when there is an occasion for the whole family or both families to get together, maybe once every few weeks, and I am grateful even though she acts rude and does her best to spoil the visit.
Queenie, I have tried everything I can think of, I have even prayed about this, but nothing works. Do you have any suggestions?—Unhappy grandmother
Dear Grandmother,
Your daughter-in-law probably has heard stories about unpleasant mothers-in-law and assumes that all mothers-in-law are that way. So sad!
Can your son bring the children to visit you now and then, without their mother? And can you hold family get-togethers, including your daughter-in-law’s family, at your home once in a while? Hopefully, your relationship with her will improve as time goes by and as the children get old enough to come to visit you on their own.
