Dear Queenie,
I know my girlfriend dated other guys before me and thinking about what she did with them bothers me, but when I try to talk to her about it she gets upset. I’m trying not to think about it, but I just can’t get the thoughts out of my mind.
Queenie, am I wrong to be bothered about this?—Uptight
Dear Uptight,
You are not wrong to be bothered by the idea, but it is a big mistake to keep trying to talk to your girlfriend about it. How would you like it if she kept bringing up the subject of your previous girlfriends?
Let the subject go, and if you have trouble doing so, talk to a professional counsellor about it, not your girlfriend.
