Dear Queenie,
Some time ago a friend told me she was molested when she was a child and I told her I know how she felt because it happened to me too when I was young. Now I have found out that she told some other people we know that I slept around, but she didn’t explain that it was when I was a child and that I was the victim of the ones who molested me.
Queenie, should I explain the truth when the subject comes up? And how do I deal with this woman who told them all this?—Victim again
Dear Victim again,
When the subject comes up, tell people the truth about what happened to you long ago.
You might also mention that when you told your friend about it you had no idea she would talk about it to anyone else. And do not ever again talk to that friend about anything you want kept confidential – that is, if you do not decide to end the friendship altogether.
