Dear Queenie,
When I was younger I got involved with a man who turned out to be abusive and luckily I broke up with him before he hurt me badly.
Queenie, how do you know if someone is going to turn out to be like that?—Want to be prepared
Dear Want to be prepared,
A man like that will want to get involved quickly; is jealous, possessive and controlling; expects you to be perfect; tries to isolated you from family and friends and will not want you to have a phone or a car or a job; blames everyone else for their own mistakes and for hurting their feelings, which get hurt too easily; is cruel to animals; is “playfully” rough with you and verbally abusive; is sweet one minute and violent the next; probably has a history of violence, but blames someone else for it; and expects you to be submissive.
If a man exhibits any of these traits, be forewarned.
