Dear Queenie,
My husband is retired, but has a part-time job. I have a full-time job and I work from home. I would like it for him to give me some help around the house but he won’t because he says I wouldn’t like the way he would do it. Usually I do the cooking because I like doing it. Sometimes he will make himself something to eat, but he never offers to make me anything or to share what he makes for himself with me.
Queenie, do I ask him for too much?—Angry wife
Dear Wife,
Apparently your husband is accustomed to being taken care of and catered to, and needs to learn to give you more help around the house. Ask him what he would prefer and give him a few specific things to do around the house, and if he does not do them, do not do them for him. Or, hire someone to help around the house and ask him to help you pay them.
