Dear Queenie,
Ever since my best friend’s mother died, which was more than 10 years ago, he has stopped having any social life. When we try to make plans to do something with him he always has an excuse why he can’t get involved, or he goes along with the plans and then cancels out when the time comes for whatever it is.
I understand his grief, but he is still young and he can’t stay in mourning the rest of his life.
Queenie, is there any way I can help him get on with his life?—Worried friend
Dear Friend,
If your friend has been in mourning for his mother for more than 10 years, he needs professional help, not to “get over it” but to learn to deal with the loss and way it has made him feel.
If you can persuade him to get professional counselling to deal with his loss, you will be doing him a big favour.
