Dear Queenie,
My daughter and her husband fight all the time – nothing physical, but lots of arguing and yelling at each other and calling each other names and telling each other how stupid each one thinks the other one is and all like that, and all of it in front of their children.
The kids are great and they are all doing well in school, but the way things are at home can’t be good for them.
Queenie, how can we help their parents do better? They went for counselling but it didn’t seem to do any good so they stopped. What else can we do?—Worried grandparents
Dear Grandparents,
Try to persuade your daughter and her husband to go back to counselling, for the children’s sake. If the first counsellor did not help them, they should try someone else – or perhaps they need to take the counsellor’s advice more seriously.
Meanwhile, try to spend as much time as possible with your grandchildren to give them some sense of stability – both you and your spouse, if you are married, so the children have a chance to see how two adults can live together harmoniously.
