This is a man's world
But it wouldn't be nothing
Nothing without a woman or a girl
Hi Dagmar! Lol
A few Thursdays back, I ended off a piece with these words: “I am still pretty old-school and still believe that men are the head of the home. It’s not in a way that diminishes the power and value of a woman, but if someone has to wake up in the middle of the night to check if there’s a burglar, it’s going to be the man (#Don’tComeForMe). So a lot of these social issues that we’re facing are simply because men need to get their acts in order.”
That night at The Box, Dagmar greeted me with: “So men are the head of the home, huh?” We went back and forth a bit discussing it, and some other ladies gave their two cents as well. After that, I had another conversation with a friend on Facebook about feminism and the two discussions tied into each other.
So today, I’m going to just vent my thoughts on the “head of the home” situation, why I think some women dislike that thought and why I believe men play a big role in social issues.
I once watched a movie in which an older lady said, “Men may be the head of the home, but women are the neck.” She was implying that the neck has the ability (and I love the word influence) to turn the head where it needs to – and of course wants to…Lol. Also, during an interview that I had with Ruby Bute last week, she said the mother is the backbone of the family – implying that the mother is the strength, support and connecting point for all the other members of the family (body). I agree with these points.
Why is it the “gentlemanly” thing to do to walk on the outside of the sidewalk and have the woman on the inside? It's as protection for the lady in case water splashes or a car climbs the curb. In the event of a robbery, does a MAN not step in front and put the woman and child behind him? Okay, we’ve only seen that in movies – but it's a thing. Even in the animal kingdom, we see animals operate in a similar manner – NONE of which is meant to take away from the woman, belittle her or make her second tier. It is just the role that I believe a man should play as the “head of the home.”
Now, the reason I think women are uneasy with this concept goes back to the Facebook conversation I had with my friend. Basically, women have been looked down on and belittled for so long that now that the balance of power is levelling out, they don't want to hear of anything that sounds even remotely belittling. We have groups of women who support a SLUT movement (Google it) and I believe it's more so because women have been suppressed for so long that they feel the need to show out extravagantly. It’s not necessarily because these movements are “needed.”
Logically, I get it; but I believe that a healthy balance is needed in everything because, though these movements may be meant for good, they can have really negative effects on an upcoming generation that follows trends without grasping the meaning. I believe men do play a big role in social issues because of the influence that men have on women – don’t kill me yet, ladies, keep reading. I love using Ciara as an example of this because so many people saw it happen for themselves. Ciara was a certified Trap Queen when she was dating Future. Facts. Ciara completely changed and became a certified Queen when she got with Russell Wilson. Facts. I’ve even seen in personal life situations as well that a woman’s lifestyle and sometimes even character changes (or adapts) based on the guy that she’s dating at the time…
Sorry, guys. I’m out of word space … Will continue next week.
*Cues It’s A Man’s World by James Brown*
