Dear Queenie,
I have a niece who never bothers to send me a “thank you” note for the gifts I give her for her birthday, Christmas or any other occasions, although she does say “thank you” if I happen to give her the gift in person.
Queenie, should I just stop giving her any gifts since she doesn’t seem to care about them?—Annoyed aunt
Dear Aunt,
The next time there is a gift-giving occasion, give your niece a package of “thank you” cards and envelopes along with a note saying you know she will find them useful in thanking everyone who gave her a gift. Then wait and see what happens.
If you do not receive a “thank you” note from her, you could stop giving her any gifts, and if she says anything to you about it, tell her you have stopped taking the trouble because she doesn’t seem to care about your gifts. Hopefully she will get the message.
