Dear Queenie,
When my best friend got married I spent a lot of money and time being one of her bridesmaids. I didn’t like her fiancé/husband very much and I think he noticed it, but I tried to be polite to him for her sake.
Later I found out that he told people a lot of lies about how I (mis)behaved at the wedding and then my friend sent me a long email saying she wanted to end our friendship because I don’t like her husband, although I never told her what I think of him.
Queenie, why would she do that?—Bewildered friend
Dear Friend,
The way you feel about your friend’s husband may be more apparent than you think, even if you never actually said anything about it. And her husband may be trying to control her by cutting her off from her friends and possibly even her family.
Try to arrange to meet with your friend in person to talk things over, but if that does not work out, send her an email telling her how much you will miss her and that you will always be available if she needs you.
