Dear Queenie,
I got married right after I graduated from college many years ago, but the marriage only lasted about a year because I cheated on him, and we got divorced and after that I lost track of him.
Now, all these years later, I am married again, but I can’t stop thinking about my first husband, not romantically, but maybe I ought to apologize for what I did to him.
My present husband knows how I feel about all this and he will go along with whatever I decide to do.
Queenie, what do you think?—Can’t decide whether to do it
Dear Can’t decide,
Your ex-husband from long ago has probably gotten over what you did to him and your apologies now would certainly bring up unhappy memories for him. Be glad you have learned to do better, and do not trouble your ex.
