Dear Queenie,
Our son told us recently that years ago he had an affair with a married woman and recently he met up with her again and she told him that he is the father of one of her children, a boy.
She is still married to the same man and our son says she has a couple of other children that she says are her husband’s and her husband never had any doubts about the boy she says is our son’s.
We told our son he should get a paternity test to make sure who is that boy’s father and now our son is mad at us for suggesting it.
Queenie, this could be our only grandchild. What should we do?—Concerned grandparents (maybe)
Dear Maybe grandparents,
Your advice to your son to get a paternity test makes good sense – it is just what a lawyer would have told him if he had consulted one.
What you should do is – nothing. Leave it up to your son to decide what, if anything, he does next and to deal with any possible consequences.
