Dear Queenie,
My sister who is about to graduate with her Bachelor’s degree still acts like a child.
She never bothered to get a driver’s licence because she can’t afford to own a car, so she expects me and her friends to do the driving whenever we go out together. She still lives with our parents and they pay for everything – college tuition, health insurance, cell phone, food, clothes, etc.
She also can’t keep track of the simplest things. She has lost her wallet several times without noticing it and even gets lost on this small island in the most familiar areas.
Queenie, will she grow up eventually or is there something I could do to help her?—Concerned sister
Dear Sister,
Your sister may grow up eventually. But there is not much you can do to force her to do so more quickly.
However, your description of her losing things and getting lost indicates that she may have a minor form of attention deficit disorder, although being able to earn her Bachelor’s degree would seem to argue against this idea.
Still, it would not hurt for her to have a psychological evaluation, if you can persuade her or your parents to arrange it. At best, it would reassure you that there is nothing wrong with her; at worst it could motivate her and your parents to get her into some form of therapy.
