Dear Queenie,
My husband never remembers special days like our anniversary or my birthday or Mothers Day. He doesn’t even remember his own birthday or Fathers Day unless I remind him!
It is so disappointing that he doesn’t care enough about me or about our marriage to celebrate these special days. I hate having to remind him, it’s like I am begging him for a little attention.
Queenie, is there some way to improve his memory?—Disappointed wife
Dear Wife,
I wonder if that is the way your husband was brought up, or did he develop a poor memory after you were married? Does he seem to care if you fail to remind him about his own birthday? And, have you talked to him about this issue – explained to him how much it means to you to celebrate these special days?
I suggest two possible solutions: take advantage of the “calendar” feature on your computer, smart phone and/or other electronic device(s) to remind your husband of dates you consider important; or, make your own arrangements for whatever celebration you would enjoy on any “special day” and make a big point of thanking him for sharing the celebration with you.
He may get the point eventually, but even if his memory does not improve, you will have your celebrations.
