Dear Queenie,
After my best friend got married she changed. She and her husband argue and yell at each other all the time. Separately they are nice enough to be with, but together it’s very unpleasant to be in their company.
They keep inviting me and my boyfriend over to visit them or to go out with them and we don’t want to because we can’t stand the way they treat each other.
Queenie, we don’t want to offend them, but we can’t stand being with them either. What can we do?—Discomfited
Dear Discomfited,
Either you continue to make excuses to avoid being with the two of them together, or you tell them (separately, I suggest, and as tactfully as you can manage) why you avoid the two of them together.
