Dear Queenie,
Every time I invite a friend of mine to go out together and do something she always wants to check with her husband to see if he wants to go with us. I just want to have a “girls only” excursion but she always wants to bring her husband along.
Queenie, should I give up on her?—Fed up friend
Dear Friend,
Before you give up on your friend, ask yourself (and maybe her too) whether she always wants her husband to come along or it is that he refuses to allow her to go anywhere without him – which is one of the signs of a controlling if not abusive relationship.
Rather than giving up on her, perhaps you should let her know you are there for her if she needs your help in coping with the way her husband treats her.
