Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend smokes pot. After we had been dating for a while and started getting serious I asked him to stop and he said he would, but it’s been a couple of years and he is still doing it. I keep asking him to stop and he keeps saying he will, but he doesn’t and it looks like he never will.
Queenie, should I keep waiting and hoping or give up on him and find someone else?—Fed-up girlfriend
Dear Girlfriend,
If your boyfriend really intended to stop smoking pot he would have done so, or at least tried, by now. It is time to stop waiting and hoping for him to change, and to start thinking about what you want to do next.
It is possible that if you break up with him he will be shocked into trying to break this addictive habit, but do not even think about getting back together with him unless/until you are convinced that he has succeeded, and maybe not even then unless you are absolutely certain that he will not start it up again.
