Dear Queenie,
My husband’s brother has been living with us since he graduated from university. He doesn’t have a job so he doesn’t pay rent or help pay for his food, and he doesn’t help around the house in any way, so we have given him a deadline for moving out and now he is mad at us and says we are just being cheap.
Queenie, what’s a good way to answer him?—Fed-up sister-in-law
Dear Sister-in-law,
People like your brother-in-law often refuse to admit that they are taking advantage of someone and then get angry when they cannot get their own way. Do not argue with him about all this, but do not let him coerce you into letting him stay. Tell him you are sorry, but this is the way things are.
You can offer to help him find a job to support himself, but that is the only help you should give him from now on.
