Dear Queenie,
When my son got married many years ago he and his wife were both working full time and they made it a rule that we and her family would not just stop by and visit any time we felt like it. In all these years they hardly ever invited us over for any occasion, like a birthday party, but I know they have had her family over much more often. Even our grandchildren have noticed the difference and want to know why they don’t see us as much as their other grandparents.
Queenie, what can we tell them?—Feeling rejected
Dear Feeling rejected,
Leave your grandchildren out of this conversation. Talk to your son and daughter-in-law and ask them if they have some problem with you and if so, what you can do about it. Meanwhile, you can arrange to have the children visit you at your home and/or take them on pleasant outings.
