Dear Queenie,
I’m in my 50s and my wife is about 10 years younger. I don’t drink, smoke, gamble, flirt with other women or spend a lot of money, so I don’t understand why for the past few years my wife has just seemed to be turned off by me. When we do things together she is fine, but there is no affection from her.
Queenie, I don’t know how much longer I can go on like this. What can I do about it?—Frustrated husband
Dear Husband,
Have you tried to talk to your wife about this? If she is in her 40s she may be going through menopause, which can have a serious effect on a woman’s libido and other psychological effects as well.
Does your wife have regular medical check-ups? If so, what does her doctor have to say? And if not, she should have a complete check-up right away and, if possible, you should go with her to hear what the doctor says.
If all this does not help you to understand what is happening with her, perhaps a marriage counsellor could help you understand what the problem may be and how to deal with it.
