Dear Queenie,
I’m 20 years old, halfway through my college education, and my boyfriend just proposed to me. We both live with our parents and attend college (different schools) and we have been going together since high school.
I accepted his proposal, but now I’m beginning to wonder if that was what I should have done.
Queenie, I was thinking of going to graduate school to get an advanced degree and maybe even studying abroad for a while, but how can I do that if we get married?—Having second thoughts
Dear Having Second Thoughts,
Does your boyfriend (fiancé) know that you were thinking about going abroad to continue your education? If so, he may have been afraid of losing you if you went away for awhile and he proposed to keep that from happening.
Tell him you love him and you are not trying to break up with him, but you want to postpone your official engagement until you return home from studying abroad. Reassure him that you will keep in close touch while you are away and you can make the engagement official when you return home.
