Dear Queenie,
I have been sick recently and I still haven’t completely recovered. It wasn’t anything contagious, but I still haven’t got all my strength back.
The problem is my husband’s family wants to come and visit for about a week and I just don’t feel strong enough to deal with guests staying in our home, but my husband doesn’t want to ask them to stay at a hotel.
Queenie, maybe I should go to a hotel while they’re here? What do you think?—Unwilling hostess
Dear Hostess,
I assume your husband’s family knows about your recent illness, but if not, they should be told right away. It should also be explained to them that you are still recovering and therefore they are requested to plan to stay somewhere else, not in your home, for the sake of your good health.
If they cannot (or will not) do so, then I agree that you should arrange to stay somewhere else while they are visiting and spend only as much time with them as your medical condition will allow, again making it clear to them that you are not just trying to avoid them.
