Dear Queenie,
My girlfriend and I are talking about getting married, but she never talks about her ex-marriage or her ex-husband and I have to wonder why they got divorced.
Queenie, would it be okay for me to ask him about it, or should I ask her if she would mind if I talk to him?I think I need to know why they got divorced.—Her present boyfriend
Dear Boyfriend,
You can expect to hear negative things about your girlfriend from her ex-husband; after all, they had their reasons for getting divorced. And your girlfriend may object to this plan, possibly with very good reason for being afraid of what you might hear. But if you are seriously concerned about what you might learn about her, go ahead and do it.
