Dear Queenie,
I’ve been going out with my boyfriend for several years and he always used to talk about getting married some day.
He doesn’t have a car and transportation is complicated and expensive for him, so I go to see him every weekend and things are fine when we’re together but the rest of the week I hardly ever hear from him.
The last time we were together he said he still wants us to be together, but he has decided that he doesn’t want to get married.
Queenie, I want to be with him, but I don’t want to be just his girlfriend forever. Should I make an end of this or do you think he will change his mind again?—Hopeful girlfriend
Dear Girlfriend,
It seems you are doing all the work of keeping this relationship going and when you are not actually together your boyfriend doesn’t miss you very much, if at all.
There should be commitment in a strong relationship, and if your boyfriend is not willing to make a commitment, you should save yourself all the work you are putting into this relationship with him and find someone else who is willing to make such a commitment.
