Dear Queenie,
I am 22, a college graduate, and living with my boyfriend who is just out of high school and has no plans to go to college. I have a good job but he does not have any job at all, so he does not pay child support for our baby.
There are a couple of jobs he could get for minimum wages but he says he wants something better and won’t even apply for them. He says he wants to support us, but all he does is sleep and go out drinking with his friends, so I am supporting all of us.
Queenie, how can I get him to settle down and get a job, even if the pay is low?—In love with him
Dear In love,
Why should your boyfriend grow up and take on any responsibility when Mommy (you) is willing to support him and let him do as he pleases? The answer is, he will not, as long as you continue to coddle him.
You are doing him no favour by letting him take advantage of you this way. Kick him out and sue him for child support. He will be better off in the long run if he is forced to grow up and face up to his adult responsibilities – and so will you and your baby.
And by the way, where are his parents, your baby’s grandparents, in all of this? Did they throw him out for being so irresponsible? Is that why he is living with and mooching off of you?
