Dear Queenie,
My wife and I have been together since we were in high school except for a couple of months back then when she was dating another guy, but after that we got back together and eventually we got married and had a family and we’ve been happily married all this time.
My problem is that she still has some photos of that other guy and a couple of small gifts he gave her and once in a while she gets an e-mail from him which she usually answers. This makes me remember the time we weren’t together and I feel jealous, but she says it was so long ago I should be over it by now.
Queenie, is she right or should I be worried?—Jealous husband
Dear Husband,
As long as your wife is not spending a lot of time with those old photos and gifts remembering her past fling, and does not hide his e-mails from you, they – and he – are nothing for you to get upset about.
You cannot help how you feel about this, but you certainly should be able to control how you behave about it, and doing so might help you to also control your feelings.
