Dear Queenie,
For the past year I have been involved with a woman from this island. I am from another island. We have many quarrels frequently. Despite the arguing we try to patch things up. But there are times when I think I should just throw in the towel.
I am very frustrated, I have no permanent papers and thus no job. I feel worthless as I have always been a young lady to support myself. Whenever I ask her about how my papers are going it turns into a disagreement. I wonder if it would be best to just go back to my country where I am sure of the procedures to get a job.
Queenie, I just need a second opinion on what to do; go back to my island, or stay in St. Maarten unemployed and unsure of the legal procedures and be patient while feeling stuck?—Jobless
Dear Jobless,
You do not say what kind of involvement you have with this lady. Is it romantic, or purely a matter of business, or both? Obviously it will be easier for you to “throw in the towel” if you have no emotional attachment to her.
Whatever the relationship is, it seems equally obvious to me that she is just “stringing you along.” Meanwhile, your position here is very precarious, to say the least. You could be detained by the authorities at any time for staying here illegally, and be sent back to your own country.
It would be better for you to leave now, before you are forced to leave and are given a black mark on your record. If this woman has any feelings or consideration for you, she will arrange for you to come back. If not, you are better off making the break sooner than later.
