Dear Queenie,
Although I agree with the advice you gave “Undecided”, that she could do better, I have to state that “better” is virtually impossible to find on this rock we call St. Martin.
I’m 28 and still single because I'm still on that quest to find “better.” The dating scene on this island is an ocean of married and involved men looking for a little something on the side. I keep hearing that there are other fish in the sea, but I keep turning up the same type or species (ha-ha).
Nowhere to be found is the “good man”, the faithful partner, who will respect a woman's mind, body and soul. A man who is not threatened by a woman's intellect or success. A man who is looking for more than an occasional romp in the sack, or a sugar momma. A real man.
Queenie, where are all the real men at? PS: Welcome to the Web and kindly don’t print my real name or e-mail address.--Single and searching
Dear Single and searching,
Thank you for the welcoming words, and let me state for the record: I never print anyone’s name or address in this column!
To answer your question, perhaps you are not casting out your bait in the right places. And perhaps the “good men” are leery of a woman who seems to be “fishing” for a “good catch”.
I suggest you stop searching for a man and simply try to be the best person you can be. Instead of looking for someone, do volunteer work, join a service club, or a church, if that is more to your taste.
Chances are when you stop “fishing” you will find yourself meeting a lot of good men. Most of them will be “spoken for”, of course, but you may get lucky. And even if you don’t, you will have made the world a little bit better place by doing something to help others.
