Dear Queenie,
An ex-girlfriend of my husband’s contacted him on Facebook and while he was visiting on his home island he called her and invited her out to lunch. He told me about it when he got home and doesn’t understand why I am vexed.
In the first place, he didn’t tell me ahead of time that he was going to get in touch with her, and he never told her he is married.
Queenie, am I wrong for being vexed or was he wrong for what he did?—Just asking
Dear Just asking,
He was wrong for not telling you ahead of time and for not telling her he is married. But he did tell you afterward, and if you trust him and believe him that it was just lunch and talking about old times, it is not worth getting vexed. However, you can make it clear to him – gently, please – why you are vexed and that you expect him to do better in the future.
