Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I have been together for more than five years, but whenever I start talking about getting married he says he isn’t ready for that yet. I asked him why not and when he would be but he couldn’t give me straight answers about that either.
Queenie, will he ever be ready or is he just stringing me along?—Lady in waiting
Dear Lady,
Your boyfriend may have issues with commitment relating to past experience with his own previous or his parents’ marriage, but if he is not willing to talk to you about them, I do not hold out much hope for any change in his attitude.
Unless you are willing to wait indefinitely, give him a deadline for commitment, or at least reasonable discussion thereof, and stick to it.
