Dear Queenie,
My husband never gives me gifts on special occasions like my birthday or our anniversary, if he even remembers them at all.
Queenie, this really hurts my feelings!—Neglected wife
Dear Wife,
Does your husband ignore you all the time, or only your special occasions? If it is the former, you have a problem that you should discuss with him and perhaps a professional counsellor. However, if it is only the special occasions, it may be the way he was raised and he needs to be re-educated.
When the next special occasion approaches, borrow his credit card (or ask him for cash if he does not have a credit card) and go out and buy yourself something special (but not too expensive). Then, when the date arrives, present the gift to yourself in his presence and make a big fuss about thanking him for it. Continue this custom until he learns to remember – if he ever does. Either way you will have your celebration and he will be a part of it, whether or not he learns to remember in advance.
