Dear Queenie,
Sometimes I like to talk over family matters with my married son that have nothing to do with his wife and then he talks to her about them and then she tells her own family about them.
I have asked him not to discuss certain things with her, but he still does it. He says they don’t have any secrets from each other.
Queenie, do you think this is right?—No privacy
Dear No privacy,
You have every right to ask your son to keep certain matters confidential, but he also has every right not to keep secrets from his wife, who is, let us face it, also a member (by marriage) of your family.
Because you know that she will “spread the news,” do not discuss anything with your son that you do not want him to tell her about.
