Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and his best friend seem to expect that when they hang out together I will hang out with the friend’s fiancée. I don’t mean all of us as a foursome, but the men together doing something and the women together doing something else.
She’s a nice enough person and I don’t not like her, but we’re not best friends like the men are and a lot of the time I really would rather be doing something else.
Queenie, do you have any suggestions?—Not really interested
Dear Not interested,
Explain to your boyfriend that while you do not dislike his best friend’s fiancée, she is not someone with whom you are very friendly. Tell him that while you do not mind his hanging out with his best friend just the two of them or spending time with the friend’s fiancée in a foursome, you do not wish (or intend to) to entertain her just the two of you every time he gets together with his best friend just the two of them.
For that matter, I suspect she may feel the same way about you.
