Dear Queenie,
A long time ago I was living with a wonderful girlfriend, but I got arrested and sent to jail for possession of narcotics,
She never came visit me in jail, she just went on with her life and met someone else and they got married and had a couple of children.
Queenie, that was a long time ago and I haven’t ever been in trouble again and I still think about her and I miss her a lot. Would it be okay to try to get in touch with her?—Sad Ex-boyfriend
Dear Ex-boyfriend,
No. If your ex-girlfriend were willing to forgive whatever you did she would have visited you or at least stayed in touch with you while you were in jail. Instead, she went on with her life without you.
It is long past time for you to stop looking back and start concentrating on your future without her.
