Dear Queenie,
I was together with this boy for 3 months and we went through some tough times, but now it’s over and he is still giving me some hard times.
When we were together we were having sexual intercourse and he told me that he would never tell any of his friends, but now all his friends know about it and they are spreading rumors, him also. I gave him all my trust, but I was warned about this, but I couldn’t believe it because he was nice to me.
I complained to him and he told me that it is not true and I couldn’t believe him because you could’ve seen it on his face.
Up to today I am hearing rumors that I should’ve heard during our relationship, so I could’ve known to leave him.
Queenie, I am a very young girl and I don’t want to have a dirty background just because I thought I could trust a boy. What should I do? Please e-mail me back!—Betrayed
Dear Betrayed,
I am sure that while you were going with your ex-boyfriend you could have heard the rumours you are now hearing, if you had been willing to listen, or to believe them. You say someone tried to warn you, but you refused to listen. For that matter, you probably could have seen for yourself what he was like, if you had been willing to look at him with the eyes in your head instead of your heart.
But they say love is blind, and apparently it is deaf also. You have also proved the truth of another old saying, the one about experience keeping a hard school.
There is nothing you can do about what happened between you and this boy. It is over and done with and you will have to suffer the consequences.
But learn from your mistake and make up your mind not to repeat it. Hold your head up and go about your business. Eventually you will live down the rumours; assuming, that is, that you do not give anyone any further reason to believe them.
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