Dear Queenie,
My brother and I are twins and although we are not identical twins we are very much alike in a lot of ways and people like to look at us and compare how much we are alike. It bugs me when they do this because although I am fairly good-looking I know that my brother is more attractive than I am.
Queenie, what can I say when someone comments about this without being rude?—The other twin
Dear Twin,
Anyone who makes such a comment is him-/herself being rude. I do not believe in returning rudeness for rudeness, but I also do not believe it is necessary to be especially polite to anyone who is not treating you that way.
Depending on how insulted you feel and how polite you wish to be, you can reply, “Thank you for telling me,” or “Oh really? How kind (or ‘thoughtless,’ if you prefer to be less polite) of you to say so” – or just stare at them silently for a moment and walk away without saying anything.
