Dear Queenie,
I had a baby in my last year of high school and another in my last year of college and I have made up my mind that I will not have any more children. However, my boyfriend wants me to have a baby with him so at least one of our kids will be his own.
He says I’m being selfish and if I won’t have his baby he won’t marry me.
Queenie, is he right?—Under pressure
Dear Under pressure,
This is not a matter of being right or wrong, it is a personal decision about what is best for you, and only you can make that decision. Discussing this with your boyfriend, and possibly professional counselling with or without him, might help you clarify that decision, and you should do so before making any permanent commitment to each other.
The question here is not who is right and who is wrong, but whether the two of you are right for each other.
