Dear Queenie,
A good friend of mine is also good friends with a group of women I don’t know very well. I’ve gone with her on some get-togethers with them, but we don’t really have much to say to each other.
I haven’t heard from my friend very much recently and when I asked her if I’d done something to offend her she just said she’s been busy with those other women.
Queenie, I realty miss being with my friend. What can I do?—Miss my friend
Dear Miss my friend,
This is not a matter of you not being a good friend, but just that you do not fit in with your friend’s other friends and there are more of them than there is of you.
Get together with your friend just the two of you whenever you can, and try to cultivate other friendships with other women, not her other friends, so you will not feel so isolated.
