Dear Queenie,
I’m getting on in years, in my 70s. I’m the one my family goes to when they have a problem, but it’s getting to be too much for me.
Queenie, would it be selfish of me to tell them it’s time to find soemone else to go to?—Worn-out Grandma
Dear Grandma,
There would be nothing selfish about telling your family your are getting too old and tired to handle the stress of their problems anymore. It would help if you could suggest someone else they could go to with their problems.