Dear Queenie,
My second husband and I got divorced because he and my teenage son from my first husband just couldn’t get along with each other. We (second (ex-)husband and I) are still on good terms – in fact we still get together quite often, if you know what I mean, and we plan to get married again once my son is grown up and out on his own.
My son found out about us getting together and he is angry about it and his father (my first husband) is no help. In fact, I think he makes things worse by bad-mouthing my second husband to our son when the boy is with him on weekends.
Queenie, can you help me?—Worried mother
Dear Mother,
It might help if you can reassure your son that you and your second ex-husband are not going to be living together anytime soon. Professional counselling – for both you and your son, separately and/or together – might help both of you cope with your present situation and with the fact that you and second-ex will eventually get married again.
It is a pity that your first ex-husband cannot remember that he should be able to love his child and consider the boy’s wellbeing more than he dislikes you and/or second-ex.
