Dear Queenie,
My cousin got engaged last year to a woman most of the family doesn’t like. We did like her at first, but after a while when we got to know her better we saw that she was bad-tempered and abusive. She would have a screaming tantrum and even throw things at us if we disagreed with her about something or if she didn’t get her own way, even in small matters.
We tried to warn our cousin that she wouldn’t change after they got married and she might even get worse, but he’s still planning to marry her.
Queenie, is there anything more we can do?—Worried relatives
Dear Relatives,
If your cousin will not listen to your concerns there is not much more you can do but wait and see if you are invited to the wedding. If you are, you will have to decide whether you want to attend, which would imply that you approve of their marriage.
And after they are married, be sure to let your cousin know you are there for him if he needs you.
