Dear Queenie,
My sister had an affair with a married man and now she is pregnant. What is worse is that she committed a crime and is going to be in prison when the baby is born.
My mother plans to take care of the child until my sister gets out of prison, but my wife and I would like to adopt the baby so that it will grow up in a stable home, which my sister can’t give it until she gets out of prison and is not likely to be able to do so after she gets out.
Queenie, how can we make my mother understand that this decision should be according to what is best for the baby?—Worried Uncle-to-be
Dear Uncle-to-be,
Try to help your mother understand how much of a problem it will be for the child in the future to have to go to live with someone they do not know, from whom they have been separated for all their life, and who has no prospects for being able to take proper care of them. In a case like this, the present and future needs of the child should come first.
