Dear Queenie,
I found out that while my husband was out drinking at a bar with some of his friends he was flirting with a woman he works with. He claims it was just flirting and didn’t mean anything, but I also found out that they have been calling and texting each other when I am not around.
I called this woman and asked her what is going on and she said the same thing he did – that it was just flirting and the calls and texts have to do with their work.
Like you always say, this is a small island and sometimes when my husband and I go out we happen to see this woman and they pay no attention to each other. I thought I could trust my husband, but if nothing is going on, why don’t they at least say “hello”?
Queenie, what do you think?—Worried wife
Dear Wife,
I think you are beginning to lose your trust in your husband and the two of you should get professional counselling together, for him to understand why you are so concerned and for you to get help coping with the situation. And, as I also always say, if he will not go with you, go by yourself.
